Even though the media bombards us with the very real fact that we are an increasingly overweight society, talking about weight can still be a very sensitive issue for most people. On last night’s episode of Braxton Family Values the Braxton sisters were in engaging in an honesty session with their therapist, when the time came for Toni to be honest with her sisters about how she feels towards each of them, Toni decided to tell her sister Traci that she wanted her to lose 20 pounds immediately and get rid of her tummy. Already feeling like an outsider, Traci understandably went into a rage, I mean who wants to hear they’re fat…and on national television at that.
A recent Jezebel article over the holiday season suggested that telling a loved one they need to drop a few pounds might not be such a bad idea:
“Suggesting to someone that they should consider losing a few pounds may not be a comfortable conversation to have. But if someone close to you has a large waistline then as long as you do it sensitively, discussing it with them now could help them avoid critical health risks later down the line and could even save their life.”
Now I agree that for health reasons you should encourage your loved one to get fit no matter how uncomfortable the topic may be, but the key word in that quote above that was missing from Toni’s request was the sensitivity part. To tell her on national television that she was fat, especially when that had nothing to do with your relationship as sisters, was seriously an insensitive thing to do. Weight is a touchy topic even for those considered to be in great shape, and if you asked most people they would tell you they wouldn’t touch the subject with a ten foot pole. How do you even begin to nicely tell someone you love and are close to something so potentially hurtful? Is there ever a right or wrong time and place to discuss something so touchy?
Do you think it’s okay to tell a loved one it’s time to drop a few pounds?