Body image and weight is a struggle for many women, but when you’re an actress governed by Hollywood’s rigid beauty standards, being outside the norm can not only limit your success, but can do a number on your self-esteem.

In MTV’s new show, This Is How I Made It, the network takes a look at how some of the entertainment industry’s brightest talents achieved their dreams. In an upcoming episode, former Glee standout Amber Riley discusses how she became a household name.

In one poignant scene, Riley discusses how being a young, plus size black actress in Hollywood nearly shattered her self-image.

She tearfully recounts:

Hollywood is a very hard place to be in. It really is. Being the person I am, you know, the size I am, being a woman, being a black woman, there’s not a lot of roles for us. After I did St. Sass…I was being offered the girl who sits in the corner and eats all day, the girl who wanted to commit suicide because she was fat. It was never anything that I felt had a good ending. I never wanted to play a character that hated herself. I wanted people to know that those aren’t the only kinds of roles for women like me. Normal girls. 

Going to the auditions and having the casting directors say, ‘I think you need to lose a little weight,’ I couldn’t understand why people couldn’t accept me for who I was and the rejection started wearing on my self-esteem. That’s when my mom and I decided to stop.

…I’m not gonna conform and hurt myself and do something crazy to be a size two. My parents always instilled knowing that you’re beautiful and knowing that you’re fearfully and wonderfully made and no one can tell you who you are. You know who you are. 

I’m a healthy person. I have great friends around me that are positive and I think that’s the key to life is making your own path. Set your own rules because there is no set rule, there is no set look, there is no set anything. You make your own rules in your life. You make your own decisions.

Riley, who recently finished a stint in the Broadway musical Cotton Club Parade, serves as a role model to many young girls who may be struggling to accept themselves. Her advice, “to make your own rules” serves as a wonderful reminder to all women no matter what they look like or field they pursue.

Check out the exclusive clip of Riley on This is How I Made It on the Entertainment Weekly site

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  1. Love this article, and love the spirit and energy of Amber Riley. It is key to remember that we are fearfully and wonderfully made!! Amen!

  2. I’m proud of Amber Riley and look forward to seeing her make way for other young ladies in the entertainment industry.

  3. The most fat accepting of all sites EVER

    • @CC: so why are you here again? I am here because this site celebrates healthy living outside and inside. Would you rather this say that everyone condemns her for loving who she is and encourage her to quit acting until she could lose weight? Wait dont answer that. You might say yes.

  4. Having good self esteem is one thing, being in denial about your unhealthy lifestyle is another. Why aren’t we striving to be healthy inside and out. You can love what you see in the mirror and still be at risk for heart disease and diabetes…then what?

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