I’ve never thought I’d understand the obsession folks have with women’s decisions concerning their own bodies. But as I get older, hopefully maturing at the same rate, I’m realizing how hard it is to fight the urge to control life, in general. Chasing the illusion of control can severely damage relationships, and even more tragically, can exhaust the person engaged in its pursuit. It’s so much easier to allow folks to be, free from my neurotic opinions (while I give mine now). But we can’t seem to leave women alone in their bodies.
This past weekend social media sites went nuts with folks who were astonished over pictures of a pregnant woman engaging in Crossfit.
According to CNN, folks were downright nasty with the 35-year-old Lea-Ann Ellison, who is eight-months pregnant:
“This is shocking and not in a good way. Lifting heavy things during pregnancy is dangerous to you and your baby,” Natalie Rose wrote.
“Why would you risk hurting your baby just to stay in shape?” Stephanie Herrera asked. “This is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard.”
It’s interesting to see women attacking this woman, but it’s no surprise, many women use hurtful, controlling language as much as men.
“This is actually sickening,’ wrote Amanda Cinq-Mars. ‘I hope pregnant [women] around the world do not do this kind of cr**.
I am a crossfit enthusiast but I DO NOT recommend this at all. Doctors always strongly suggest to not lift heavy because you can sever your placenta and cause major damage an early labour and miscarriage …. Posting this picture goes people the wrong message that this is OKAY when it’s not!!!!”
One man, Josh Giannapolous, pointed to perceived selfishness of Ellison’s choice when he wrote:
“Cross fit? This goes way beyond a way of life, and right into an obsession … She is very selfish for endangering a life for her own personal gains and achievements. This is not a proud picture to post.”
Ellison, a former bodybuilder, reacted to all the comments by saying the following:
“I can’t believe this photo has caused this much stir but it makes me hopeful that it will inspire other strong healthy moms to continue on doing what they love. Pregnancy is not an illness! Get it Moms!”
Over on The Frisky, Jessica Wakeman summed up the reaction to these photos with this gem:
“As I sit here nibbling a bagel with cream cheese and sipping a Frappuccino, I will decline to judge another woman’s health and exercise choice. I also have never been pregnant … Nevertheless, blaming Ellison for wanting to be, by her own admission, a “hot mom” doesn’t help anyone. It’s dismaying to see a pregnant woman trashed online for doing things we want to encourage more pregnant woman to do — be happy and exercise.”
Carry on control-seeking internet trolls … it’s got to be exhausting work making sure your opinion is heard.