The dating game can be treacherous, and having a banging body can mean the difference between catching the eye of your future soul mate or going home alone. While many of us faithfully workout while we’re trying to snag Mr. or Ms. Right, once we get into a relationships we can sometime fall off the wagon.
Apparently that’s what happened to Kim Kardashian. After rumors spread that her beau Kanye West wanted her to go to extremes to lose weight, Kardashian admitted that she’d gained a few pounds since hooking up with West. Kimmy K wrote on her blog, “Yes, I have gained some weight…but I guess being happy and comfortable does that to you.”
I looked back on my past relationships and I’ve noticed that, while I’ve never gained a significant amount of weight as a part of a couple, I have gotten comfortable and found more pleasure in sharing a meal than hitting the gym.
And I’m not alone. According to a study conducted in 2008, marriage and divorce were “weight shocks,” which prompted men and women to pack on the pounds.
In the study, researchers looked at how marriage and divorce affected weight changes in a group of 10,071 people who participated in a national survey from 1979 to 2008 and were between the ages of 14 and 22 when the survey began. Information was analyzed from the years 1986 to 2008, the years that the survey included weight measurements.
The results showed that marriage and divorce both acted as “weight shocks” that increased the number of small weight gains (less than about 7-20 pounds for the average person) among men and women. For example, men and women were more likely to experience small weight gains in the two years after marriage or divorce than those who never married.
While the health benefits increased for married men, women’s weight took a hit during marriage because of increased responsibility. Household chores, parenting, and work commitments tend to fall on women more than their partners which decreases the amount of time they have to work out.
To combat the “happy” weight that creeps on when you’re coupled up, work out with your partner and cook healthy (and romantic) meals at home.
Have you ever gained weight while in a relationship?
Getting comfortable and fat is one of the best things about love…Im just saing
I gained weight while in my previous relationship. I learned the hard way NEVER EVER.DONOT.JUST SAY NO to when it comes to taking others before you especially when it comes to your health. To remain healthy is for you and not your mate. So many women fall in love and neglect themselves because they want to make their mates happy. This is a huge no-no. Once you start loving yourself more, you want to look and feel your best externally and internally. You just have to monitor your eating habits more with your partner. He may can eat two slices of pizza, but you on the other hand; need to eat only one slice. This makes a huge difference when it comes to combating weight while coupled up.
*learn to JUST SAY NO
True I have a small gut but I love my wife no matter what she has heart
I have been in both situations. Once, we both gained weight. We looked like totally different people! In the other situation, we are both maintaining, even losing at times. I think it goes back to the primary focus on life. Plus Kim and Kanye, it does not seem to be happy if he is publically telling her she need to putting on weight. That doesn’t sound like happiness
I think there is some truth to this. When my husband and I first started dating we would go out to eat pretty much every week. It was fun: food, drinks, desserts. I wouldn’t necessarily say that we stopped going to the gym because of one another (we frequently go together), but other life circumstances made our schedules and, in turn, our enthusiasm for working out dwindle.
We are back on track now (after being married for almost 5 years) we are finally losing the pounds we packed on since marriage: 30 lbs for me (which I have already lost 13 of) and 50 for him. For us, it’s about more than just wanting to being attractive – although I do. But, it’s also about our health. We don’t have kids yet and I want us to be as healthy as possible. In order to feel good about ourselves, and be a positive role model for our future little ones.