By now we’ve all had the talk. You know, the talk where your parents awkwardly sat you down to explain how men and women who love each other make babies. Fun times wasn’t it? There was one talk, however, that never happened, the talk where we’re told the pleasures of self pleasure. It’s something that has always been somewhat taboo, even in a culture where sex in thrust in our faces on a 24/7 basis. While men often joke about having to go on solo missions, women seem more likely to hide the fact that they masturbate and most are downright ashamed about it.
I personally know grown women who will blush at the simple mention of an adult toy even though they aren’t virgins, are single and well, have desires like every other human being. Why most woman prefer to keep their masturbation in the dark can come from a variety of reasons, but whatever those reasons are, one business owner in Tokyo, Japan is looking to bring the topic of women and masturbation into the spotlight.
Megumi Nakagawa is the proud owner of Love Joule, a “love and sex bar dedicated to women,” that aims to foster a comfortable atmosphere in which ladies can “openly discuss masturbation.” The bar, which opened in July in Tokyo’s Shibuya district, is off limits to men, unless accompanied by a woman and boasts a sexy, fashionable atmosphere with a bar display of candy-colored vibrators and lubricants, in addition to the usual display of champagne and liquor bottles. Nakagawa says that “most people view female masturbation as something of a mystery or taboo,” and we guess he’s hoping that after a few shots his female guests will be open enough to discover a different side to themselves.
So far Love Joule is a hit with the ladies and I’m definitely not surprised. For too long women have been carrying around this conscious or subconscious shame when it comes to masturbation and Nakagawa’s bar is finally giving those closet self lovers a place to go where they can see that they aren’t alone. A place to go where they can discover a side of themselves they’ve kept hidden and not feel ashamed at their curiosity. While I don’t think the U.S. needs a full on masturbation bar, I do love the idea of pushing the topic out of the taboo zone in such a big way. Something tells me that after one night at Love Joule those women’s lives will never be the same.
What are your thoughts on self love? Do you like the idea of a Love Joule here in the U.S.?