This is how he met you.

Unless you packed on 50 pounds or developed weight-related health issues since hooking up with your beau, asking you to lose a drastic amount of weight (in a ridiculously short amount of time) after he’s been experiencing your good, good loving is straight up suspect.

Again, I don’t fault men who positively encourage their partners to live healthier lives (hey, working out together is sexy!). But if you look the same as the day you guys met—and he was happy with you then—there’s something a little controlling (and Ike Turner-ish) about hounding you to lose weight—especially if, like Kimmy K., you don’t need to.