There has been a lot of talk in the media lately about pictures of Lady Gaga where she is more curvaceous than the public is used to her being. Critics are calling her fat, lazy and urging her to lose weight. The thing is that this “obesity” that people are going crazy over is nothing more than curves that many women get as they age. Instead of feeling like we need to be a model-esqe stick figure all of our lives, we must embrace this sexy weight gain! It’s not about getting fat or being sloppy, but rather gaining the curvaceousness our bodies were meant to have.

Many may not know this, but lady Gaga come from Italian heritage. Curves are a natural asset for most women with an ethnic background. Stars are especially prompted to deny their natural figures by working out like maniacs and following an unsatisfactory diets. Having hips, thighs and a rotund behind is not the end of the world, yet society makes us feel like it is. The weight of negative comments comes down heavily on our female celebrities of Hispanic, African-American and Caribbean descent. They are told to fight these genetic curves with all of their might. By doing this, they are telling impressionable minds that they too should do all they can to fit into a body stereotype that may not be natural for their body types.

It is one thing to gain an unhealthy amount of weight that is detrimental to your health, but gaining 10 or 15 more pounds that actually compliments you is not the worst thing that could happen. I gave birth to my son 4 months ago. I lost the majority of the weight that I gained after giving birth, but I am still 15 pounds heavier than my pre-pregnancy weight. I was 130 and now I am 145 pounds. The amount of compliments I have gotten from family and friends is mind blowing. I have had people tell me I look like a “real” woman now. My parents are from Trinidad. I was always teased about not having a bamsey. Now I have a bamsey, thighs and bigger breasts than I could have ever imagined I would have. I learned to embrace my new body because it is sexy and beautiful. I’m not sloppy. I still workout to keep things tight and to remain healthy. I am no longer obsessed with being 125 pounds.

All of our bodies change as we get older or go through life-changing experiences like giving birth. If you are a size 8 now instead of the size 2 that you were in your former years, there is nothing wrong with that. It’s all about being comfortable in your own skin and being HEALTHY. Being a stick figure doesn’t always mean that you are healthy.

We need to embrace our bodies, and the many shapes they may become. Having a little extra cushion is not something to be ashamed of. As woman this is something we need to understand, and encourage our sisters. Often times women are the harshest critics. We get enough combativeness about how we should look from men. We shouldn’t receive the same treatment from one another.

Those curves are sexy … Flaunt them with pride!

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  1. C’mon Fat is not sexy or MOST people would desire a fat woman or man. Fatness is outwardly expression of addiction much like crack or heroine. No one is born to be fat. It happens and not by accident.

  2. this is strictly for people who gain weight and it goes to the “good” places. some people (like me) gain weight in the WORST places ever! when i gain a benign 5lbs it goes to my face,back,and thighs. not cute! rolls aren’t my idea os “curvaceous”

    obviously the author got lucky and actually looked better after gaining weight. most people… not so much

  3. Irresponsible. irresponsible. Frugivore why don’t promote becoming morbidlyobese to. For a ftness and health site, promoting obesity in code words like thick or fat in the right places defeats the point of having healthy conversations about health and wellness. Last time I checked this site and the CDC, nearly 70% of AA are overweight yet all we here is we should accept and embrace unhealthy destructive ways looking. SMH

  4. Let’s all agree unhealthy weight gain is NOT HEALTHY! But being a larger woman doesn’t necessarily mean she is unhealthy. I get the tone of the article but damn..

  5. Seriously? I’m so over this subject. Women, and people in general, regardless of sex, age, race, WHATEVER come in all shapes and sizes! While a size 4 on one woman may be a healthy, fit size, it might be cause for concern on another, depending on her height, age, etc. Can we all just get over it and realize that as long as you’re physically active on a regular basis, and eat a balanced diet, you’re probably gonna be just fine! Being busty and curvaceous does not make you any more or less sexy or healthy or attractive than a woman who is long and lean, or one who is pettite and muscular, or one who is tall and round, or ANYWHERE in between. Stop comparing yourselves to people on television, in magazines, walking down the street, or riding with you on the bus, and realize that your ideal figure is completely unique to you, and so long as you have a clean bill of health, it doesn’t matter if your middle is a little rounder or your ribs pertrude a little further than the next girl. We are all different!

  6. I think she is gorgeous! This is what a real woman looks like. She is a very very beautiful and sultry lady. Keep doing what you are doing and that is being a real woman! Wow!!!!

  7. fat is always sexy! i’m bi and chubby and it is so revolting if you are skinny. Why starve to death people were mean’t to be a size hott curvy size 20 not a ugly unhealthy size 2

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