As the vegan movement continues to gain attention and momentum, it’s very interesting to see all the commentary both positive and negative that comes along with it. Specifically, there seems to be a lot of chatter that I’ve read — and even discussed myself — about whether, as a vegan, you are “unequally yoked” if you date and/or marry someone who is a non-vegan.
These types of conversations are very similar to those many people have about religion: whether it’s wise for a Christian to marry a Buddhist, for example. I know for myself, coming out of a relationship with a vegan man, it is quite difficult to think of adjusting to having a mate whose plate differs from mine, but I also know how much this limits my dating pool, considerably. I have opened myself up a bit on this point, with some parameters in place, but, for many, it’s no meat or no way in choosing a mate.
Most people understand the concerns one would have in marrying someone of a different religion, but, in the same token, they find it a bit ludicrous to have the same conversations surrounding what one chooses to eat. So, has veganism, in effect, become like another religion — an even more radical cult-like one at that?
I suppose it depends on what vegan you ask, I tend to take the less radical approach, but I would consider myself to be in the minority. In any event, I can see how it could be difficult for a vegan to marry or date someone that eats steak each night of the week. In the same way it would be difficult for a devout churchgoer to make it work with an atheist. I feel that in all relationships and dealing with people in general there should always be a give-and-take and understanding, but, choosing to be with someone whose belief system differs drastically from yours, whether it is about religion or meat-and-potatoes, can prove to be quite challenging and daunting to consider for many.
This becomes especially true if children will be part of the equation: should the children be vegan or not? This is specifically one to ponder if the woman in the relationship is vegan because the child will be fed a vegan diet via the mother during the pregnancy. On the flip side, I do know there are many people who are already married and one decided to become vegan and necessary adjustments are put in place to make it work for themselves and their family. I do believe that people take food very seriously and personally whether you’re vegan or not and most like to be able to break the “same bread” with their loved ones just as most would like to partake in the same religious activities.
So, what do you think? Do you think veganism has become like another religion? Are you a vegan who will only date or marry another vegan? Sound off in the comments and let us know your thoughts!