One of the touchiest topics to talk about in a relationship is your significant other’s weight. Whether it’s an issue of health or they are just letting themselves go more than you would like, addressing the issue is one that should be approached with caution.
Yes, you love the person who you are with, but becoming over-weight can be a sexual turn-off no matter how beautiful that person is on the inside. Here are some ways to suggest or help your man/woman lose some weight without being offensive:
- Suggest walking over driving to your favorite date spot or taking a walk after dinner
- Let your woman know that pole dancing is sexy and you think she would be great at it
- Change the way you cook for him/her with healthier varieties that taste just as good as the fattening foods
- Tell your man/woman that their favorite outfit is looking a little “different” now and suggest maybe a bigger size or some alterations be made
- Suggests that the two of you work out together in order to spend more “quality time” and stress the benefits working out can add to your sex life
- Make a comment about how disheartening it is when people feel like they can let themselves go just because they are in a relationship
- Talk about one of their friends who has gained weight and how unattractive it is
- Come up with dates that are more on the active side than passive
These are subtle tips that speak volumes to your spouse about their weight. The blunt approach works for some, but just hurts most. Try these tips to help your significant other get their sexy back.
I don’t mind eating healthy and exercising (I really don’t), but I do have strict protocols for how I am talked to and how I am approached. This list should serve as a warning to everyone about the kinds mates to avoid–you know, the kind who are only interested in what a person can do for their arousal. The catty ones that drag down others to serve as a warning shot to a person in their life.
If someone came at me with this, I’d have them down to a T and walk out before it got anymore depressing, draining and dehumanizing.
I mean it’s not a loving relationship if one person is dancing on puppet strings you know… and shouldn’t love, happiness, healthiness and self-agency be a staple of life rather than something only certain people are entitled to?
–Let your woman know that pole dancing is sexy and you think she would be great at it–
really? frankly, this right here is tied too much to sex and it almost seems like a backhanded way of gratifying the partner not the one that needs the help. this one is just fraught with so many potential landmines. i think it would be best to avoid it, unless the partner has expressed interest in doing it.
i don’t need to lose weight but if someone suggest a pole dancing class, i think i’d be a bit offended. i’d rather someone focus on me be strong and capable and able to accomplish something. saying, LET’S try to do a 5k race by xyz time. that’s me.
–Talk about one of their friends who has gained weight and how unattractive it is–
you can’t possibly think that badmouthing a friend is going to endear you to someone, do you?
–Tell your man/woman that their favorite outfit is looking a little “different” now and suggest maybe a bigger size or some alterations be made —
wow.
–Make a comment about how disheartening it is when people feel like they can let themselves go just because they are in a relationship–
again, wow.
i think people should just be kind but honest. also, don’t complain about someone being overweight if you are.
also, try to find a partner who actually has similar values when it comes to health and fitness as a way of life. yes, make living this lifestyle a value you have not an extra. like, honesty and kindness are values.